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Oh COME ON Joel and Julia (Parenthood Spoiler)

**Spoiler Alert: You might not want to read this if you aren’t current with Parenthood episodes**

PARENTHOOD -- "Stay a Little Longer" Episode 512 -- Pictured: (l-r) Erika Christensen as Julia Braverman-Graham, Sam Jaeger as Joel Graham -- (Photo by: Colleen Hayes/NBC)


What’s happening on the show:

So from what we, the Loyal Viewing Audience can gather given the age of their daughter Sydney, Joel (once-SAHD supreme) and Julia (once partner in a law firm supreme) became wed a decade or so ago.  Their relationship has endured many challenges including: secondary infertility, losing a baby to an ethically-questionable private adoption gone wrong (Damn you, Coffee Cart Girl for keeping your baby!), and disagreements over how to handle Victor’s falling behind in school. Oh, they adopted 10-year-old Victor after he got dropped off in the driveway couple seasons ago.

Distracted and grieving Julia gets fired from her high-powered firm, leaving Joel to step-down as uber-SAHD. Conveniently, he snags a plum bid on a massive new development with sexy architect Pete—a female Pete. The current plot might make a lot more sense if Pete was a man and Joel was questioning. Maybe.

Regardless, ARE YOU WITH ME?? So, Julia, suddenly and awkwardly a SAHM, befriends another recently-canned SAHP named Ed as co-volunteers on the school “sustainability” committee. Together they lecture kids on not using juice boxes at lunch time, and spout awkward little PSAs on the environment, while forging a bond over mutual malaise and not very much else that is outwardly apparent.

Nearly as lacking in charisma but less chiseled than Joel, Ed’s marriage is failing. Ed begins crushing Julia, and she kind of crushes him back on a subterranean level she won’t acknowledge even to herself. They text about their problems, and this anti-sexting culminates in a tepid kiss that Julia doesn’t exactly pull away from.

Fast forward to a wine-drunken Ed embarrassing himself at the PTA fund-raiser auction, And now, obviously, Joel is moving out.

What is happening in my mind:

Joel: Julia, quit existentialist-whining all day long and call a headhunter. You are miserable and therefore I am miserable. While you’re at it, how about you talk to me about our problems instead of Sad-sack Yet Affable Ed.

Julia:  Screw you, Joel. That’s a total oversimplification of the stress our marriage has endured over the past few seasons, and at least Ed sees me when he looks at me.

Joel: What’s that supposed to mean?

Julia: You seem like you hate me and everyone else on this set. I MEAN YOU WALKED OUT ON BROTHER BRAVERMAN POKER NIGHT. Have our writers forgotten to reveal one of our gambling addictions or sexual issues or multiple personalities? Because people don’t turn into complete weenies overnight, Joel, not even here in Berkley.

Joel: See Julia, I’m not sure I like you anymore.

Julia: So that’s why you don’t look at me like you like me anymore. And that’s why Sad-sack Yet Affable Ed looks sooooo semi-appealing. He likes me. He wants to make-out! And let’s face it, in real-life that one.single.questionably-reciprocated kiss would’ve at least been a make out session. I could still call it “one kiss,” because how do we count kisses? Breaths? Head shifts? Minutes? And then when I told you “nothing happened,” it would’ve been more obviously minimizing to the viewers, and you would’ve been even more suspicious of the nutritious breakfast I’m preparing for your homecoming, while you’re gallivanting with God-Knows-Who-Pete around God-Knows-Where-Berkley.

Joel: Interesting. And when I stayed out all night I probably would’ve at least made up some lame excuse about where I was, so you didn’t start freaking out and calling hospitals and calling Pete which you totally would’ve done in real life. I will admit, however, that we’re always cooking up something delicious on the griddle.

Julia: Right? Balanced breakfast high-fives all around! Anyway, you don’t really like me anymore. I still love you. Because people at least usually have this “Don’t you still love me” conversation when they’ve spent a decade together and had kids, yes? Isn’t this kind of the requisite pre-break up conversation?

Joel: But you can’t possibly like me anymore either right? What with my constant frowny-face and stick/butt.

Julia: OMG, I think you’re right. I don’t even like you that much!!

Joel. But I do still love you, which kind of blows. Suddenly this conflict feels real and so much more complex and interesting for our viewers. What do we do when we love each other and don’t like each other, and we have kids and we’re legally bound and looking at decades more life together?

Julia: Whoa, you’re starting to sound like Ed. This is getting kind of hot, what with the analysis and actually talking about our problems. Are you sure you want to move out?

Joel. You know what? When we actually exchange parts of speech with our mouths, I don’t automatically turn the dial from “Mad at Julia Who Kiss-Forsaketh Me” directly to “Move out immediately.”

Julia: Let’s go see a marriage counselor.

Joel: No, I’m pretty sure I’m still a bastard that refuses therapy, but I have a sneaking suspicion you will go on your own and get some helpful tools we can use “together.”

Julia: That’s exactly what I’m going to do, Ed. I mean Joel.

Joel: Now I’m going back to work to point at blueprints and flirt with Pete. Anyway, maybe this week you can stop brow-furrowing and stay awake past nine and we can role-play that Swimfan scene again.

Julia: If you can unclench and look me in the eye, it’s possible! I’m going to go take a Briggs-Meyers assessment online. I was a high powered attorney. Surely I’m qualified to do something besides faux-fail at stay-at-home mothering. But first I’m going to finish flipping these perfectly-formed pancakes.

Joel: Atta girl!


15 comments… add one

  • Linda Roy January 26, 2014, 4:01 pm

    HA! Nailed it! And I truly have always marveled at their ability to overcome personal strife in order to serve up the most important meal of the day. Strength and perserverance over easy.

  • Naomi Hattaway January 26, 2014, 6:24 pm

    Bwa hahahahahaha!!!

  • When I Blink January 26, 2014, 6:26 pm

    “role play that Swimfan scene” — is where I just totally lost it.

  • Sharon Greenthal January 26, 2014, 7:08 pm

    Such a bad plot line. I mean, come on, they just adopted this poor kid, held him back, and now they’re separating??? Bad, bad, bad.

  • Holly January 26, 2014, 11:15 pm

    Want these two back together? Maybe they should both go act poorly with someone else (I mean both actors kind of stink this season).

  • Alexandra Rosas January 27, 2014, 6:35 am

    And THIS is how dialogue should go. No doubt in my mind that if this were a show, a play, a chapter a day on WPR, it would be a record breaker. Ann, you are good at aaaaall the things.

  • jodifur January 27, 2014, 10:37 am

    This is perfect. Also, I hate this storyline sooooo much.

  • Becky January 27, 2014, 10:53 am

    Maybe while Joel and Julia are fighting over nothing, they can look for Hattie who went off to college – i.e. disappeared forever. Which is a good lesson for kids. Don’t go to college or you will never be seen from again.

  • The Jenkins Family ~~ January 28, 2014, 2:24 pm

    lol oh my gosh that just made my week. You are amazing!

  • Nancy Davis Kho January 28, 2014, 2:51 pm

    I gave up that show years ago…it was too real and not real enough at the same time. Thank you for helping me rationalize that decision. God forbid a working mom-turned-SAHM could just deal with it and enjoy it as the temporary situation it probably is.

  • Tonya January 29, 2014, 4:51 pm

    Love it!! I’m going to start a petition to have you hired by NBC. I really hope J & J can get their shit together.

    Thanks for the laugh.

  • Heidi Cave January 29, 2014, 7:48 pm

    Ann! This is brilliant! They (it used to be Julia, but now it’s mostly Joel) have been making me crazy. This is perfection.
    Parenthood is so good with every other relationship on that show, except for the Joel/Julia one. I feel like they just wanted to give them something to do and this was the weird choice they made.
    Now you need to go be a writer on Parenthood.

  • Natasha Mata January 30, 2014, 9:00 pm

    Hey, I just wanted to share this video because I know a lot of moms can relate. I was trying to do a vlog and my kids took over and I was so focused on making my 1st video vlog that I didn’t notice they were downstairs :)

  • Galit Breen February 5, 2014, 6:17 am

    Confession: I’ve never watched Parenthood. How is that possible, right?

    Love this anyway because good dialogue is the cat’s meow. #clichesftwalex

  • Rose Urban March 20, 2014, 9:20 pm

    I keep waiting for some big revelation about Joel that explains why “he doesn’t know what he wants”. It seems so contrived. Makes no sense. I thought it had more to do with his frustrations at work that he seemed to be taking out on his wife. Thought he wasn’t going to make much money on the project, and felt like a failure, which is why he is shutting down. Just a hunch. Has to be more than Julia kissing Ed. I mean c’mon!!!

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